1. Opening Thoughts
2. Table of Contents
3. Further Reviews and Summaries
4. Quotes from the Book
3. Further Reviews and Summaries
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As we go through every situation in life, the basal
ganglia extracts decision rules: when I did that, that worked well; when I said
this, it bombed, and so on. Our accumulated life wisdom is stored in this
primitive circuitry. However, when we face a decision, it’s our verbal cortex
that generates our thoughts about it. But to more fully access our life
experience on the matter at hand, we need to access further inputs from that
subcortical circuitry.
The two left-hand quadrants in the generic emotional
intelligence model are about the self: self-awareness and self-management.
These are the basis for self-mastery: awareness of our internal states, and
management of those states. These domains of skill are what make someone an
outstanding individual performer in any domain of performance – and in business
an outstanding individual contributor, or lone star. Competencies like managing
emotions, focused drive to achieve goals, adaptability and initiative are based
on emotional self-management.
Self-regulation of emotion and impulse relies greatly on the
interaction between the prefrontal cortex – the brain’s executive center – and
the emotional centers in the midbrain, particularly circuitry converging on the
amygdala.
Competencies like managing emotions, focused drive
to achieve goals, adaptability and initiative are based on emotional
self-management.
Self-regulation of emotion and impulse relies
greatly on the interaction between the prefrontal cortex – (good boss) the brain’s executive center
– and the emotional centers in the midbrain, particularly circuitry converging
on the amygdala (bad boss).
The amygdala is a trigger point for emotional
distress, anger, impulse, fear, and so on. When this circuitry takes over, it
acts as the “bad boss,” leading us to take actions we might regret later.
The interaction between these two neural areas
creates a neural highway that, when in balance, is the basis for self-mastery.
Here are the five top amygdala triggers in the
workplace11:
1.Condescension and lack of respect.
2.Being treated unfairly.
3.Being unappreciated.
4.Feeling that you're not being listened to or
heard.
5.Being held to unrealistic deadlines
Studies of employee engagement find that in top-performing
organizations, there are ten times more fully engaged workers than disengaged,
while in average-performing outfits there are just two engaged employees for
every disengaged one17. Engaged employees are more productive, give better
attention to customers, and are more loyal to the organization
There are three kinds of empathy.
One is cognitive empathy: I know how you see things;
I can take your perspective.
A second kind is emotional empathy: I feel with you.
This is the basis for rapport and chemistry.
And the third kind is empathic concern: I sense you
need some help and I spontaneously am ready to give it.